Every relationship has it’s ups and downs. Some days you are on top of the world and the next day you are on the bottom. But when a relationship breaks up you can really sink into a negative mood. Of course you are angry and upset and granted you will have a period of mourning over a lost love and questioning your self worth. Despite these feelings it’s critical to regain your positive attitude and at least appear confident and mentally strong if you want to get your ex back.

So why is it important to be confident and have a positive attitude? How does this help getting your lover back? The real secret in staying upbeat is it makes you more attractive. Not just to your lost lover but to friends and people in general. Think about this who would you rather be around? A happy, confident person or some one with a negative attitude? I think your answer would be to hang out with the confident person. This person is fun to be with, happy and self assured and people are attractive to him/her.

The great thing about this positive thinking and acting idea is your former girlfriend/boyfriend is going to see you in a new light. If she still has strong feeling for you she will begin feeling a sense of longing to renew the relationship. Seeing you as outgoing, positive and fun loving will draw her to you. So decide today to turn the frown into a smile. Go out buy yourself some new clothes. Put a bounce into your step. Yes it may be hard at first to stay upbeat, but remember what your goal is: getting your lover back.

Breaking ishard to do! But trying too hard to get your lover back will only drive them further from your arms. Keep the communication lines open. They may have ended the relationship, but you just need to make her feel like communication lines are open and that you want to be civil. You do not have to be the one initiating the conversation, but you should be willing to say hello and have a conversation occasionally with her, keeping in touch casually. Above all else, analyze what went awry with the relationship. “The Magic of Making Up” can be your guide to restoring your relationship. Visit http://www.howtogetmyloverback.blogspot.com for more free heartfelt advice.

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